One of the most stressful day of the school calendar is almost upon us – Results Day 2019 (6 August). How can you support your child through the biggest day of their lives?
The waiting game is a nail-biting time, not just for students, but teachers and parents alike. You’ve nagged them for months on end to study, you’ve shelled out for all the overpriced study guides and past paper books – you might have even paid for private tutoring.
But how should you support your child on the big day, especially if things don’t turn out as planned?
If your child signed up for results by text or email through MySQA, they should receive their results by text or email from 8am on 6 August. Don’t ask your child if they have received their results as soon as they wake up – and even worse, don’t wake your child up to ask them to check their results.
— Sam SQA (@mysqa_sam) August 5, 2019
Remember that your child sat the exams, not you, so it’s up to them when they open their results, and, when they tell you. Pestering them for their results will only make the whole process more stressful, especially if they receive lower than expected results and are worried you will be disappointed.
Don’t be too harsh
If your child is upset over their results, don’t tell them that you’re disappointed, too – even if you are. Definitely, whatever you do, do not compare your child’s results to those attained by their siblings or anyone else you know. It seems like an obvious piece of advice, but appearing let down by their results will only make the day even more negative.
Instead, take your child out for a treat – such as lunch or to the cinema. Not only will it help distract them, but it will calm your emotions, too. This is especially helpful if you need to help your son or daughter phone their first or second choice college or university or consider their options through Clearing over the next few days.
Know the options
It’s important you know what options are available before Results Day, so you can help your child if the worst happens, and it means you can support them and maintain levels of calm.
When emotions have settled, sit down with your child and have a look at Clearing online – if they decide they still want to go to college or university.
If your child didn’t attain the grades for their first or second choice college or university, they might find a course at another institution which still has places left. Remember these places will go fast so you’ll need to make a quick and decisive decision. However, it is important to encourage your child not to make a snap decision that they will later regret.
Bear in mind that there are a lot more opportunities available than college or university and perhaps a gap year or an apprenticeship will be a more suitable path for your child. Results day is challenging (and scary) for everyone involved, but as a parent, you can be on hand to defuse any nasty surprises.
Words: Olivia McCann